tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949599201485766767.post7241004003168854448..comments2023-10-15T09:27:09.397-04:00Comments on Wander to the Wayside: Luck of the draw, or destiny?Wander to the Waysidehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14056931538024315352noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949599201485766767.post-58286056237625196492009-09-15T19:27:20.389-04:002009-09-15T19:27:20.389-04:00Your post made me cry, because I felt for both you...Your post made me cry, because I felt for both your mothers (biological, and adoptive) for what they wanted to do and couldn't. I cannot imagine what it was like for your mother to give you up, and the heartbreak of that memory must have led to her alcoholism, because maybe she never could resolve that in her heart. If she came to that house and cried every year for having given you up, I so totally could see that affecting her. Perhaps it's not so much the event itself but her feelings about it. I feel that she must have thought you were better off at the time, and never suspected the challenges that would face you in the times ahead. Maybe one of the reasons she was a poor excuse of a mother and ended up having her children taken away was because she felt she didn't deserve them, because she gave you up. Who knows. I feel for your stepmother as well, for trying and failing to be a 'good' wife and mother. It is good to see what you have done with your own life after all this, as a wife and Mom. It shows that we can rise like the phoenix out of challenges and come up stronger and on a good path. Sorry, waxing poetic... I'm happy for your happiness. Peace.Lornahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16324378141061370103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949599201485766767.post-71747988041440715722009-05-18T13:51:00.000-04:002009-05-18T13:51:00.000-04:00Your story makes me really believe that advice tha...Your story makes me really believe that advice that wiser people than myself say, "It isn't what happens in your life, but how you react to it."<br /><br />And you've reacted wonderfully. I mean, you're a wonderful mother and grandmother, probably more because of, than despite, your past.<br /><br />And Happy Birthday. Again.<br /><br />Love you.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17882235346307802213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949599201485766767.post-74039316589921632822009-05-18T02:58:00.000-04:002009-05-18T02:58:00.000-04:00"And that's ok, because I have re-written my life ..."And that's ok, because I have re-written my life script, and redirected any residual sadness to being the best possible mother I can be to my daughter."<br /><br />I bet you are the best possible mother. That garners this a success story. We all have our tales, but having learned from them separates those who do and those who don't. Sounds like you have done just fine. Thanks for sharing this emotional journey.Midlife Roadtripperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06700277803842883251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949599201485766767.post-84255129239999757242009-05-18T01:39:00.000-04:002009-05-18T01:39:00.000-04:00Back in those days women were treated awful if the...Back in those days women were treated awful if they were pregnant and unmarried. I'm glad your mother had you and gave you up for adoption, instead of aborting you. I wonder if the pain of giving you up and the embarassement she felt from her father, caused her to start drinking.<br />My father's mother died in child birth and his dad couldn't take care of him, so he was placed in an orphanage for the first few years of his life. I knew him as a stern father who could never show emotion. I think it was from his up bringing. <br />It's great that you are able to over come it all and be a wonderful mother to your daughter.Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17525015607826244834noreply@blogger.com